Better Communication, Freer Life
How learning to communicate can lead to a happier life
For a long time, the way my family dealt with uncomfortable situations was by pushing them under the rug. We pretended it wasn’t happening. We put on a happy face. And we pushed forward.
In many ways, this helped me develop into the emotionally strong person I am today, but in many other ways it made things really difficult.
We talked, but we didn’t really talk. To the point where we didn’t really know what was going on with each other until things got really bad. I used to think it was a normal thing to do. Things got difficult and you figured out how to deal with it.
As I’ve gotten older I have realized two things:
- We are not the only family who deals with their issues this way
- It’s not the way to do it
Looking back, I think a lot of the reason we communicated only on a surface level was a fear of judgment, a fear of rejection, and a fear of disappointing one another.
One thing my family certainly wasn’t lacking was a real love for each other. I think by keeping things to ourselves and not communicating on a deep level we somehow thought we were protecting each other. But what we didn’t realize, that by not being willing to be vulnerable, we left each other in the dark.
I can’t say when the change started. I like to think I had something to do with it. For me, I know one day I looked around and realized the only people that I could truly count on was my family and they didn’t even know me. And I didn’t know the real them. Because the real us isn’t the sugarcoated version we put on Facebook. The real us it the one who messes up. The one who makes mistakes. The one that disappoints, loses, fails, and really just sucks sometimes.
The happiest moment in my life was the day I decided I wanted to be myself.
The second happiest day was when I looked around and people still loved me.
To live the life you are truly meant to live, you have to stop hiding and the best first way to do that is to start communicating with the ones you love.
I’ll end with one of the truest quotes there is:
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter won’t mind.”- Dr. Seuss
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