An idea came up in a class I was taking that really began to shift my perspective on judgment.
When we judge others, we are really judging ourselves.
It didn’t totally make sense at first. I thought, well no, I’m making a decision on how I feel about what some one else is doing, and therefore I’m making a judgment about them. So, what does that have to do with me?
Then I looked deeper into the root of theÂ thought-the initial judgment. What was it about this person that made me feel inadequate? Boom. It was almost directly connected to the judgment.
So, for example: Some one walks down the street looking great in a dress and heels. The first thing that pops into my head might be, “Who gets that dressed up on a Monday, ugh what a weirdo”. Then I sit back and reflect on the judgment and realize that the thought was triggered from something deeper- A feeling that my own outer looks were inferior.
This is just one example, but if you really take the time to pause after you make a gut reaction judgment, I bet most of the time you will be able to see what about that judgment relates to how you are judging yourself.
Judgment surfaces from you and really has nothing to do with the other person. There’s something about yourself that you’re not 100% satisfied with so, in order to take the heat off of yourself, your mind pushes that judgment onto some one else.
We are our hardest critics. If we are able to release the judgment we hold on ourselves, we can create a more positive view on the world around us.