Have you ever felt like the world was just out to get you? You’re having a rough day or a rough week and the stress keeps piling on.
I had been having on of those weeks and I what noticed today was that I was beginning to assume the worst in everyone. Someone sent me an email with a “tone” I didn’t like. The person driving in front of me was braking intentionally to make me angry. Even the dogs were walking slow because they knew I was late. As the day went on, I felt my anxiety heighten. My mind grew cloudy and unable to focus. I even felt the tenseness in my body starting to spread.
Everyone else must be the issue right? So, what do you do about it?
I started by making the decision I was going to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. I was going to assume the positive. Now, I’m not asking you to be naÃ¯ve or blind. I recognize we’re not living in a world in which all people have good intentions. However, we can simply allow space to recognize our gut reaction and then choose to assume the best in others
– giving them the benefit of the doubt.
Perhaps the short-worded e-mail you received was sent in a rush, or the sender is having a bad day. Perhaps the person driving in front of you is lost in thought and doesn’t notice you driving behind them. And perhaps, well most likely, your dogs aren’t walking any slower than normal. You are just irritable and walking too fast.
It may seem so simple- too simple even that you can create more happiness in your life assuming the best and giving others the benefit of the doubt, but I encourage you to give it a try. When I stopped assuming the world was attacking me, I started to see how the world was throwing gifts into my lap.
The first step to living a happier life is deciding that you have the power to make it happen.
“Be kind. Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about.”